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16th Jul 2025

Top 5 Core Beliefs that Fuel Our Passion for Homeschooling

What keeps homeschool parents motivated when the going gets tough?

In this tell-all episode, Anthony and Crystal share their top 5 core beliefs that have sustained them through 13+ years of homeschooling five children - beliefs formed from their own childhood experiences that continue to fuel their passion today.

In this episode, you'll discover:

  1. Why the Obey's value the custom education that Homeschooling provides - further validated by how the internet advanced faster than the school system could keep up with
  2. The surprising impact of environment on childhood development and identity formation
  3. How to become a "chain breaker" and upgrade your family's generational patterns
  4. The difference between intentional parenting and homeschooling (and why you need both)
  5. Why being your child's primary influence matters more than ever in today's culture

Perfect for: Parents considering homeschooling, current homeschoolers facing challenges, and anyone wanting to understand the deeper motivations behind the homeschool movement.

Whether you're just starting your homeschool journey or you've been at it for years, these foundational beliefs will help you stay focused on what matters most - and give you the motivation to keep going when homeschooling gets difficult.

Transcript
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In the last two episodes, we got up

close and personal revealing some

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of our most vulnerable moments to

get to our underlying motivation

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for homeschooling our five kids.

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If you haven't listened to Anthony's

story and my story, go back and listen

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to those before you start this episode,

because today we're going to debrief

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to identify the most significant

themes that impacted our lives and our

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decision to homeschool decades before

it was more popular like it is now.

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It also reveals why we're so steadfast

in our homeschooling instead of

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quitting when it's gotten hard.

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We're about to share our top five beliefs

that keep us motivated for homeschooling.

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Which ones do you share?

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Let's find out in today's

episode of Homeschool Money.

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intro: A fast growing number

of parents are starting their

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homeschooling journey while others

have been homeschooling for years.

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All of these parents are asking one big

question, how can I afford to homeschool?

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We are here to answer that

important question once and for all.

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Hi, I'm Crystal Obby.

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And I'm Anthony Obby.

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We've been homeschooling our five

kids for 13 years and we funded it.

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Through our online consulting business

that we've been running for over 17

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years now, we're combining Crystal's

financial coaching expertise with my

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digital marketing background where I help

entrepreneurs launch and sell online.

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We're here to help fellow homeschooling

parents self-fund their homeschool

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journey and create lifestyle businesses.

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For financial freedom without a nine to

five job, are you ready to start living

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life on your own terms and make your

homeschooling experience a lot more fun?

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Well then sit back, crank up

the volume, and enjoy this

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episode of Homeschool Money.

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Welcome, welcome to today's episode.

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I'm really excited about this

episode because this will be the

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first episode on this show that

Crystal and I get to do together.

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And it's an episode where we are sort

of debriefing our two stories that

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we just shared here on the podcast,

where Crystal shared her story and I

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shared my story, and we just want to

extract and crystallize the top five.

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beliefs from our, our

childhood experience that.

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Motivate us to homeschool.

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Those are really important to know

for yourself on your homeschooling

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journey, whether you're considering it

or whether you're, you've gotten started

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or whether you've been homeschooling

for five years, because those belief

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systems that you have, they drive you on.

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They keep you motivated, they

keep you energized to keep

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showing up and doing the work.

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It's also important on this

particular show called Homeschool

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Money to do that work because

it will keep you motivated to.

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Move through this five step

system that we have built in

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the homeschool money process.

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It'll keep you motivated to move

forward with those five steps so that

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you can make the money and achieve the

financial abundance that you need for

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your family so you can continue to afford

homeschooling easily for your family.

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And so I look forward to chatting

with Crystal just about our top five.

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Belief systems that drive us and

motivate us to continue homeschooling.

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And it'll be interesting for you to see

which one of those you share and what

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are maybe some of your other belief

systems that you've developed from your

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childhood experience that br bring you to

the place of wanting to homeschool today.

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So Chris, why don't you kick off?

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Theme number one, that was shared in

our experience that brought you to

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the place of wanting to homeschool.

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The first thing that stuck out from

both of our stories is that we are

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both attracted to homeschooling because

it allows us to provide a custom

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education instead of a one size fit

all kind of opportunity for our kids.

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Um, many times education can be, like

I said, one size fits all, outdated

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or irrelevant, and we both realized

that homeschooling would give us the

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opportunity to be able to give our kids.

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Individually, all five of

them, exactly what they needed.

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We didn't see how we would be able to

provide that from public school or private

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school for all five of our children with

the resources that we had from growing up.

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Yeah, absolutely.

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Uh, I did not realize for myself

that whenever we first talked about

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homeschooling, when we met in college,

I was like, yeah, that sounds great.

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Uh, I'd love to do that.

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I didn't realize.

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Like how true this point of custom

education would become because I

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didn't know what the internet would

become and how we would get on the

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wave of the internet pretty early on,

on as entrepreneurs and, you know,

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develop our first, you know, website.

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Um, just within a few years.

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And, we actually co-wrote a

book together through email.

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I, I didn't realize that we would end

up being early adopters in that, and

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that the internet would become something

that would move so much faster than,

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uh, definitely public school education

would be able to keep up with, but even

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private school education, even higher

education at the college level, that,

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that it would move faster and things

would develop faster than they would

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be able to keep up with especially when

you add on the, the, the element of.

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Marketing a business online.

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Things that we were

doing as early as:

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And so this point about, uh, custom

education is, is so important

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because things are continuing to

move fast with the development of ai.

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And so it's important for us that

we're able to customize and, , curate,

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elements to our children's education

that better prepares them for what

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is happening in the real world.

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They'll be glad you did.

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Now, back to the show.

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Yeah, I think that one thing that we

have is now we have more confidence

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in the custom education part.

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Because we actually have experience

and we always do revisit our own

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upbringing, our own experiences.

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But I know that whenever we first were

talking about homeschooling, before we

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even had children, we were more focused

on the ability to have the time with

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the kids and be able to nurture them and

be able to provide 'em opportunities.

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But now that we're so many

years in, we really appreciate.

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How really good of an opportunity

that was because if we hadn't have

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been having to learn so fast and,

you know, self-teach ourselves in the

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marketplace, then we wouldn't be able

to really uncover that opportunity.

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I think people are starting now to

see that, uh, a custom education

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for each one of your children.

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You can't really provide that

anywhere unless you're doing a, a,

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a highly expensive private school

that it's at the cutting edge.

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Um, but that's still the school and

they have to move a lot of kids.

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It's not necessarily a problem

of the school isn't good.

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It's just kind of like when you have

a startup business and you're a small

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team, you can make decisions really

quickly and whenever you have a

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larger company, you just have a lot

of different things that have to move

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in place in order to make decisions.

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So homeschooling allows you to just have

to worry about five students for us.

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Yeah, we don't have to make sure that 30

kids in a class or, you know, thousands

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of kids in a school or even more

thousands in a school district are okay.

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And so just the, the way that it's set

up is set up to be able to be a good

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opportunity for the individual child,

because whenever you go to school, you

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get tutoring after school to get ahead.

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But in homeschool, it's like

having a one-on-one education for

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each child, which is a luxury.

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Yeah.

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And usually that luxury comes at a

cost of being in a private school.

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And so with five kids, I mean,

can you just imagine what

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the bill on that would be?

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And so this is actually the most

affordable way for us to give

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our kids a luxury experience.

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That's right.

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And so, and I feel like that has been

uncovered more as we've gotten older.

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Yeah.

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Because we we're like, well, with

nothing that we use in our day to day

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was taught to us at school or in any

type of program we've had to go into, you

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know, masterminds and books and online

courses and courses, online courses.

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I mean, that's why we're so

strong about online courses.

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If it had not been for someone packaging

how to do this thing in an online course.

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We would not have been able to get

the information because we have been

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working in internationally and learning

internationally for the last 25 years.

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Yeah.

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Only because of the internet.

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Yeah.

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And so it's not about whether there it

you, you, because you can send your kid

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to a school that is on top of things,

but it's just the way it's set up.

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You're always gonna be able to provide.

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One child a lot more than you can

provide, you know, 30,000 kids.

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That's right.

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And when you're buying, like if you're

in a public school sort of educational

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system and you know you're buying

for a whole district, just by the

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fact of that work, there's going to,

there's a lot of bureaucracy in it.

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Exactly.

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There's a lot of chains of command in

order to just get new curriculum approved.

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Mm-hmm.

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And by the time that

curriculum is approved.

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And then move down to actual

, teachers, and then to the

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students who are learning it.

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It's probably, I don't know how long

that that process takes or whatever,

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'cause I'm not in the educational

system, but it, we, we, it's easy to

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understand that that information in

the internet age is already outdated.

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It's like with the parents right

now who are looking to get some of

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the education savings account money.

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You know that's happened now

here in Texas, but it's not

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even gonna be available till

the next school year, right?

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And so it's like, well, the

kids that could have had it

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this year, you still gotta wait.

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Everything happens and then you have to

wait for it to actually be implemented.

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But you can make decisions

and changes in your own home.

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In the same day, start benefiting from it.

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That's right.

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And so the custom education and this,

the being able to be nimble basically.

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Mm-hmm.

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It's just revealed to be a really

top benefit for us and our kids.

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That's right.

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Because we can, we basically

are running a stem school, an

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art school, a music academy.

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A a a cooking class.

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Yeah.

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You know, a bible college, you

know, all under the same roof.

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Yeah.

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And.

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I didn't know whenever, you know, I was

18, that that would be such a big deal

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because I had had such good experiences

in public and private schools that

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now I'm like, oh wow, this is the only

way that I would've wanted to do it.

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Yeah.

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And we also got the relationships with

the kids, okay, so that was really

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good discussion on point number one.

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Now let's move on to the theme number

two that we kind of both talked about

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in our individual stories, and that is

just the impact that your environment

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has on your childhood development

and your educational experience.

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Um, I know for me, I was tremendously

impacted by the environment that I

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was in going into that last year of

elementary school, fifth grade, and

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then into middle school and high school.

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I was impacted by the, social dynamics

and that's a big part of what children

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are dealing with in middle school and in

high school that creates so much anxiety.

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You know, this generation's called the

anxious generation, and how could you

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not be you're at this developmental stage

as, an adolescent where you are trying

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to solve for identity, where you're

trying to discover who you truly are,

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um, as you are developing as a young

person, and you're at the age where

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you look to people around you for that.

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And so when you.

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Are in the kind of environment that I

was in my, well, my mom could not control

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that environment so then I sought my

identity by those that I was around.

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And so.

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One thing I really enjoy is that in

a, in a homeschooling environment,

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we, we know our children's friends and

we know their parents, and so we know

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whenever they hang out with friends,

we know the environment they're in.

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That.

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Is, is a big advantage that you have as a

homeschooling family to be able to sort of

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shape the environment that your children

who are in such a high developmental stage

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in their, uh, in their growth, you get to

shape their environment and, and it just

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makes a big impact on the people that

they grow up to be during that critical

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phase of their development as a person.

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Yeah, I feel like.

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That was, that's another hand up that we

have by taking the time to look at our own

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stories, because we've learned that people

are, are, are able to go through the

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same things over and over and over again.

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Like middle school is hard for everybody.

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And it's hard for different reasons.

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Like we've learned that in middle

school you're not a child anymore,

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whether your parents are helping you

with all your homework and everything.

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What, what happens in middle school is

now you go, you're still a child, but

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now you're responsible for more things.

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You're responsible for

turning in your homework.

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You're responsible for getting

yourself up and becoming like

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this little, small, little adult.

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And, and if you don't have the skills

that have been built in, you can

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feel like you're not successful.

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When you were successful in

fourth or fifth grade when mommy

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and daddy were helping you, but

in middle school, you're not.

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Achieving the same and that can,

you know, be really hard on a child.

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But we are able to know that.

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And so we're building the skills into

our kids with executive function on like

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how to do, how to get things done, how to

make things happen, how to be organized.

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Because a lot of times kids feel bad

when really they just haven't been

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taught how to win, how to study, how

to manage their time, how to manage

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their energy, how to express themselves,

and all of those things are happening.

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At a time where everybody their

same age is experiencing it.

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And so we've been able to look at and

say, Hey, look at how it was whenever we

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put ourselves in different environments.

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And what was the difference?

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It was just being with people

who were doing the same type

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of thing we wanted to do.

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So there was different goals or

there was this different, uh, ways

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of, um, enjoying ourselves and so.

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By knowing that we were, I think we

had an have an advantage because as

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our kids are hitting middle school,

hitting high school and things we're

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like, Hey, okay, let's look out for,

they're 12, they're 13, they're 14.

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What did we experience and what have we

learned that they might be experiencing?

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So we've been able to have

conversations about that and

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kind of stay ahead of things.

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Yeah.

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Just by taking the time, you know,

to think about our own lives.

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And so there again, just

to summarize this point.

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As a homeschooling family, we're

able to more, uh, curate and help

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shape and influence the environment

that they are growing up in.

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And we're also, we also, as

a homeschooling family, we

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also have more time mm-hmm.

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And margin to devote to.

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Coaching them and being there for them as

they're going through the, the different

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developmental stages of their childhood.

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And that's just another point is, the

time it takes to actually parent a child.

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It's a real life on life body,

on body full contact sport.

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Yeah.

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We spend this parenting,

we spend so much time.

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It's like, you know, just

working through emotions.

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Mm-hmm.

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Working with opinion, working

through opinions, working through,

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um, you know, sibling relationships.

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And if we weren't homeschooling, we

wouldn't have time to do that and they

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would be experiencing a lot more, um.

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You know, relationships with

a lot of other people and not

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having extra coaching on how to

develop their relationship skills.

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But we do a lot of that here at home.

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So then when they go out with friends,

you know, that's not the first time

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they've really encountered things because

siblings go through a lot together.

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That's right.

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So now let's talk about

point number three.

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So a third theme that we notice is our

commitment to being chain breakers.

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Basically, we're trying to break

generational cycles in our family,

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and so homeschooling gives us the

opportunity to kind of reset the things

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that we've seen that maybe we wanted to

be different from what we were raised

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with, even though we had parents that

were doing everything they possibly can.

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We know that whenever our kids

grew up, they're gonna say, oh,

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you could have done this different.

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Our parents did the best they could.

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We're doing the best we can.

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And so homeschooling just gives

us a little bit more, um, help in

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being able to make that investment.

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That's right.

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For me, I started my story off

with the fact that I'm proud to

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say that I've changed 99% of the

diapers for all five of our kids.

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And, that's a physical material

difference than, it was for my upbringing,

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and for the siblings that I have.

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And it speaks to the

amount of like sheer time.

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The amount of time in a day that

I'm able to spend with my kids.

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We set up our life so that we

could work from home, work at home.

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I remember we went through that phase

in our business where we learned the

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difference between working from home

because we had our equipment and.

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Our vehicles, and employees, parked

at home, but we were always out.

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Um, so we had this brand new house

that we were never at, right.

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And then, um, getting into

more internet marketing.

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It was a big shift in like.

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Oh, now we're now no longer just working

from home, but we're working at home.

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At home.

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That was a beautiful shift, wasn't it?

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And, and we, we wanted to make that

shift early on before we had kids, um, so

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that we could be these parents who were

empowered financially to be with our kids.

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And that worked out because

whenever we decided that we were

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going to, you know, make sure that

I was able to nurse all the kids.

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Well, I kind of needed to have

that time and the flexibility.

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And so that's a difference too,

because like I said in my story,

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you know, my mom wasn't able to keep

nursing, um, me because she had to go

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to work and had to go away to work.

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Right?

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And so that doesn't work.

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And she wanted to keep nursing.

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And so hearing that growing up, I

was like, oh, whenever I grew up I

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wanna be able to nurse, my babies.

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And so I have been able to nurse all

five of our kids and nobody tells

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you how much of a job that is, how

much, how many hours that takes.

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And so being able to just things that

you see that maybe your parents aren't

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able to do or, or maybe wanted to do,

you are able to change that by being

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able to homeschool and have that time.

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That's right.

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And, and I didn't know, uh, exactly,

you know, what all would come with

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fatherhood, but I did know one thing.

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I just wanted to be there.

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Mm-hmm.

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I wanted to be there, and

I wanted to, be close.

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To my children so that I know what they're

going through, so that I know what they're

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dealing with, so that I know what they're

thinking, what big questions that they

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have in life, and that I would be there

to answer those questions, instead of

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leaving that up to the culture, um, pop

culture, hip hop culture, movies and,

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their peers that they could be around in

a public school or even a private school

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setting, leaving it up to them to shape.

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The answers that they get to

the questions that they have.

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I want it to be there.

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That's good, good conversation

on, on, on point number three.

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And just wonder, what do you share?

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Like so far we share three values.

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Do you feel like you're called to be a

chain breaker, uh, in your family and

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give your children, a more intentional,

um, upbringing as a parent than maybe you

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had what drives you to want to homeschool

your children and, uh, and, and parent?

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it's not always, because we talk about

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changing the generations and things.

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It's not always you're trying to change

something like, you know, just like

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with addictions or something like that.

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Like, my mom couldn't nurse,

that's not the end of the world.

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able to fulfill some of the dreams.

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That maybe your parents

or your grandparents have.

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gives us that opportunity.

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I think that's important to remember

that, because many times when we talk

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about generations, you know, it can always

be kind of like in a negative thing.

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Like, we didn't have this,

so now I'm gonna have it, you

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know, in more of the negative.

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things that you made, they made, you

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know, I was able to be there with my

grandmother and that was a really great.

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Investment.

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I just wanna make sure that, you

know, people understand that.

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Sometimes, sometimes generational

things is just an upgrade of what

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you, what some things that you did

experience that were really good.

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As a number four, a theme that, came

up in both of our stories is just the

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role of intentional love in parenting.

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tony comm 2: Hey, I hope

you're enjoying the show.

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We'll get right back to the

discussion, but I do want to talk

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And for us, I think that.

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The desire to be intentional with

giving, lots of love to our kids

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was just something that we wanted

to do, and we felt like for us that

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homeschooling, would allow us to do that.

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There's a lot to be said.

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That a lot that has been said

rather about quality time.

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But building strong relationships is

not just a matter of quality time.

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What is that?

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It's a matter of a

quantity of time as well.

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You look at people who play any

sport at the, at the pro level or any

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business person who's really rocking

in their game, it's not a part-time.

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You know, these people

are not weekend warriors.

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These people spend a lot of time each day

developing their craft and shoring up.

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Weak points in their game to be

who they are, and intentional

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parenting is no different.

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It takes a lot of time.

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That's one reason why we always

tell people when we're talking

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about the Homeschool money program,

is that when you're running your

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business, you're parenting your kids.

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But you also have to homeschool them.

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And so many times people build a business

from home if they've been able to do

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that, but they haven't factored in the,

the, the, the point that homeschooling

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and parenting are two different things.

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Being in charge of your child's

education is one thing, but parenting

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takes a lot of time in itself.

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And so even when kids go to

public school or private school,

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you still have to be a parent.

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And then you still have to

manage, you know, all the.

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The details of them going to school.

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And many times people think

that when you homeschool, it's

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just kind of all blended in.

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And that is what causes a lot

of burnout in homeschooling.

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And so in our schedule, we literally

have, here's the list of things

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we need to do for our home.

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This is the things we need

to do for our business.

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This is the things we need to do for the

kids and their homeschool, which is their

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education, and then us individually.

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And so those are all different categories.

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Parenting and homeschooling take.

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Different sets of energy, and

so you have to factor that in.

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And so being intentional in parenting, you

could be a highly intentional person, a

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highly intentional parent, and send your

kids to public school or private school.

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I mean, many people are very intentional

and move to specific neighborhoods and in

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making all types of sacrifices for that.

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But an intentional homeschooler,

which is what we're talking

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about, has to factor in.

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That time and that energy for the

education as well as the parenting.

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And so intentional in education

takes all the curriculum, all the

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relationships, all the co-ops, all all

that kind of planning and with multiple

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ages, a lot of different skill set.

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Intentional parenting is the, you know,

relationship and the quality time and the

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sibling relationships and all that thing.

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And so you have to be.

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Wise in how you use your time,

your energy, whenever you're trying

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to be a homeschooler, a parent,

have a marriage and still keep

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your own, you know, self together.

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I, I think that on the note of

intentional parenting, you know,

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just looking back to things that

made a difference, in my childhood.

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Just one small thing that I remember

from like my mom, as a single parent.

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Parenting me, and having to work,

you know, full time and sometimes

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working overtime, multiple

days a week, just to provide.

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And, um, and then me being at school

all day and not necessarily being

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able to spend the time together.

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Not a lot of time at all, but just.

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A point of her intentional parenting was

setting rules and setting boundaries.

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And just noticing me, I can recall

friendships where it just did, it seemed

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like some of the, some of the guys had

both parents in the home, but they just

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weren't, they didn't have as, as strict

a boundaries, uh, around their time

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and around how they spent money and

around how they spent their time and.

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It makes a difference in how, much

trouble a child can get us into when,

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you know, and so, and just so my mom,

just having, uh, stricter boundaries

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around my time and, uh, and just

noticing me, and just asking a few

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questions here and there made a, a big

difference and help me, stay on, on track.

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Small things such as just setting

good boundaries had a big impact.

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And so just wanna encourage, uh, you

listening, the efforts that you may

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think are not enough or good enough

because your child is still a child

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and he or she has ways that they still

need to grow and learn, and you're just

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looking at that because you're in it.

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You know, all of the efforts

that you put in as an intentional

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parent to steer them towards being.

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A, you know, high functioning, healthy,

happy, whole individual, they are going

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to pay off in spades for you later on.

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Just, I hope that you share that value

with us on using homeschooling as an

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opportunity to be that intentional

parent, to spend more time to be a bigger

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influence in the life of your children

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and that will pay off for you as a parent.

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Okay, so let's move on to the last

point, point number five, or just

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the, the fifth theme, um, that w

was shared by us in our story that

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we believe is a big driver for us.

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The fifth theme that I think we notice

that a lot of homeschoolers share

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is that we want to be the primary

influencers of our kids instead

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of the culture or institutions.

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And so basically whenever you have more

proximity with your kids is when you're

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spending more time with them, you end up

being, you know, their main influence.

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And so whoever you spend

time with, you become like.

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Everybody knows that the top five

people you spend with, spend time

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with, that's who you become like.

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And so by us being there and us not just

being in the same house, but actually

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engaging with our kids, we've already

seen it because our kids have been like,

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oh, whenever we grow up, you know, we

want to, you know, still be around you.

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We still wanna do this.

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And you know, they've said,

oh, you're my role model, not

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this person or that person.

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We've been able to maintain that

influence because we are engaged

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with our kids and we tell them that

we're really trying, we tell them,

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Hey, we're doing this because we are

trying to put you on this right path.

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We're not just, uh, like the Charlie Brown

parents where the kids are down there

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and the parents are like, wow, wow, wow.

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You know, we, they understand, Hey, we're

here trying to do our best to parent you.

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God gave us to, gave

you to us and us to you.

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We're doing the best that

we can and so we are doing.

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Everything that we know and everything

that we can do to learn, to be able

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to raise you guys in the best way.

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And so, um, that has been,

I think, a overarching.

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Thing That has been a big theme.

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That even impacts all the other themes.

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That just, just the being

the primary influence.

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Because if you send your kid away

for eight hours a day and then

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you, you know, they come back and

you get a couple hours and, and

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that's the time where they're tired.

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That's the time where you're just

trying to get dinner, trying to get

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them to, you know, their practices

or something, get 'em in the bed.

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You basically see 'em at all

their worst and That's right.

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I'm so happy and so and so

just even by the actual.

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Calendar schedule.

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The schedule itself says that you're

not, the primary influence of your

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children is, particularly as they

grow up in those highly impressionable

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developmental stages where they're

experimenting and things like that

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in middle school and high school.

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Like we, like we've talked about earlier.

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And so we know we want it to be and

remain their influence going into these

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very impressionable, experimental,

developmental stages of their growth.

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And you know, even like at five years

older, you know, younger than that

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or older than that, whenever people

teach their kids how to read, it's

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been like one of the best things

that I've been able to enjoy to teach

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each one of our kids how to read.

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And so I can't imagine, you know,

getting through all the diapers, getting

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through all the, you know, the twos and

the threes and all that kind of stuff.

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And then finally whenever they're able to

sit down and read and wanna learn, that

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little moment of time is just so magical.

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And we've been able to experience

that with our kids and I can't imagine

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now dressing 'em all up and sending

'em to school for their, you know,

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get their little apple and their

little favorite little teacher.

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Yeah, I mean, it's been such a

great, you know, experience to

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watch them and, you know, we deal

with all that stuff and then.

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Sitting down for our first

day of like reading, and

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that's been the funnest thing.

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I'll have pictures from all of it.

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Spending that time with the kids and you

know, now they look up and they're like,

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oh yeah, mommy taught us how to read.

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And then I talk about the

importance of just literacy.

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Because seriously, if you learn how

to read, you can learn anything.

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And if you can't read, then you know,

you're just at the mercy of what

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somebody else is reading to you.

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And so reading is a superpower

and I'm super passionate about it.

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And so me being able

to be the person that.

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You know, teaches them how to read

and then seeing, and then we just

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keep giving them opportunities to

learn and grow in their own way.

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That whole process, you know, has made

up for a whole lot of the, the, the,

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the diapers and the, the messes Yeah.

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And all that kind of stuff.

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And so just being there, it's so fun.

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This has been really good.

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I hope that you guys got something good

out of it and that it has encouraged

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and, motivated and lit a new fire.

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In your belly to continue or to start?

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In the journey of homeschooling, again,

these are our underlying motivations for

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homeschooling that have been important

to us, that make this conversation of

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how to easily afford homeschool so that

you can homeschool without sacrifice.

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So that you can homeschool

and enjoy financial abundance.

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These are the motivators for us to,

be intentional about not just having

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that conversation, but living that

out and experiencing that financial

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abundance so that we can continue

on our journey to homeschooling.

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Thank you so much for joining

us in this episode, and we look

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forward to seeing you in the next.

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Anthony is a world-class Sales Conversion Copywriter and Digital Marketing Consultant with a proven track record since 2007. He is the co-founder and COO of LIFE AND LAUNCHES - a digital marketing consulting and coaching company with his wife, Crystal Obey. Having worked with hundreds of companies worldwide, Anthony and his wife Crystal run LIFE AND LAUNCHES, offering results-focused strategies to clients. They recently launched Homeschool Money, a program and podcast helping 100,000 parents self-fund their homeschooling journey by answering the #1 question: "How can I afford it?" Married 23 years with five children, the Obeys live in Dallas, Texas, where they enjoy homeschooling and family activities.